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Civil War Pension File: John Patrick Brogan

Posted on August 21, 2024March 15, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Despite my years of researching and documenting my family, I’m continually humbled by how much I don’t know and how much is available to us if we simply know where to look or who to ask. Case in point: I recently learned in a Civil War Facebook group that I could request my 2x great grandpa’s Civil War Pension File using the information provided on the Pension Index Card I found on Ancestry.com a few years ago.

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Oral History & Faulty Recall: Leah Stanton

Posted on June 24, 2024March 15, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Inaccuracies are caused by faulty recall; there is no factual research to discover heights of buildings, dates of demolition, blood types

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The 2020 Census

Posted on May 8, 2024 by Melissa Willis

We all grieve the 1890 Census, but have you given any thought to what happened with the 2020 Census?

Let’s talk about it.

2020 was… whew! It was quite a year, wasn’t it? So much worry, uncertainty, and general confusion. The world had flipped upside down and all that we thought we knew was being questioned from inside our respective homes.

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Finding Nancy Jane

Posted on February 19, 2024April 16, 2025 by Melissa Willis

As many of us in the genealogy community know, the work that we do doesn’t all happen overnight. While some of us have been gifted documentation of our family history and some of us have had some fantastic luck in tracking down lines or have distant kin who can guide us in the right direction, that’s just not the case for all of us or for every situation.

And, as many of us in the genealogy community also know, all it takes is a single spark to pique our curiosity and carry us through even the most frustrating challenges.

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Documenting Immigration & Naturalization

Posted on January 23, 2024 by Melissa Willis

Recently inspired by the Finding Your Roots Episode featuring Valerie Bertinelli and Brendan Fraser which focused on the immigration and naturalization of a few of their ancestors, I’ve gotten curious about one ancestor in particular, John Patrick Brogan, and have decided to devote some time this year to researching some of the details surrounding his move from Ireland to the USA.

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On Getting Organized & Setting Family History Goals

Posted on November 10, 2023 by Melissa Willis

I’m what one might consider a Seasonal Hobbyist. From family history to crochet, reading to making art, journaling to blog posting, there is a definitive ebb and flow to my interests and capacity.

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Finding Phil: Three – Cause of Death

Posted on October 13, 2023 by Melissa Willis

While I’m still waiting to hear back from the Groundskeeper at the cemetery my Grandpa is buried at, I received follow up documentation the other day from the New York City Health Dept. in the form of his final medical report. It turns out our family story was correct, his immediate cause of death was…

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Finding Phil: Two – Final Resting Place

Posted on September 6, 2023 by Melissa Willis

I often wonder why it is that the people closest to us, in physical proximity and in heart space, are the ones most often taken for granted…

Why we assume we know the facts or, at the very least, have bits and pieces of facts clear enough in our heads that it’ll all come together easily and turn out just fine in the end.

I find myself currently in this liminal space with my maternal grandpa, Phil, who lived and died before I came earth side.

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Finding Phil: One – Death Certificate

Posted on August 21, 2023 by Melissa Willis

After years of thinking about it, I finally ordered and received my Grandpa Phil’s death certificate last week and goodness was that exciting!

Funny, isn’t it, how excited we can get about documenting our ancestors…

Seeing the details in black and white…

Reflecting on the circumstances that led up to that final moment…

Contemplating all that came before and all that transpired after?

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HELLO & WELCOME!

I'm Melissa :-)

Ghost Chaser | Kin Seeker
NPE Survivor | Tea Drinker

As a hobbyist family historian and genetic genealogist, I find great joy in folding time with the Ancestors in an effort to best honor them while documenting their legacies for future generations. Grab a cuppa, let's sit for a spell and chat about ghosts!

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I finally got to work on my paternal grandma’s Her I finally got to work on my paternal grandma’s Heritage Journal spread! Whew…that created more of a speed bump than I anticipated but I’ve begun!  Woohoo! 🎉 

“Jean was a complicated woman who I never had the opportunity to meet and the more I learn about her, the more questions I have.

She is quite the enigma...

I’ve created layers and layers with colors and patterns and mini pages within the spread to be turned and lifted/looked into and beyond.

I know she loved music and gardens, so there’s that.”

More words + pictures + insights on the blog ❤️

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Faced with a brood of young children entering thei Faced with a brood of young children entering their teen years in the 1960s, my maternal grandma and grandpa decided to move the family out of New York City and to the country.

As writers and artists, the idea was simple enough…

“We had had the city. Obviously, our markets were there, but we couldn’t have cared less. The peculiar brand of writing and illustrating we do could be just as easily be airmailed to Kansas as carried by hand down to midtown Manhattan.”

More about their city-to-country life experience, on the blog: https://boldandqueer.com/what-it-was-really-like-to-move-to-the-country/
On the personal blog today, a “notebook meeting” w On the personal blog today, a “notebook meeting” with my six journals spanning from simple notes & a weekly planner to an everyday journal & a witchy Grimoire… From a dive into my family history & genetic lineage, to a brand new sketchbook. A peek into my pages & the pulse of my writer’s heart ❤️

There’s a new link in my b1o to my personal blog, Under the Elderberry Tree. Of course I’m still blogging on Bold+Queer, but some topics live beyond the family history/genetic genealogy niche, ya know? I’d love it if you’d head over, give it a read, and have a look at all the pictures 🌀

💬 Have you ever held a “notebook meeting” to assess what’s working and what’s not in your journal(s)?
Hi, hey, hello!!! I’m back! Well, sort of…in a lim Hi, hey, hello!!! I’m back! Well, sort of…in a limited way 🙃 I’m still doing my best to rage against the machine that is the USA and the horrors of the world at large, but I’ve also missed this amazing family history community so will be poking my head back in from time to time. 

I hope to show up for you, inspire you, and offer you some grace as we all document our ancestors and do our best to be good people in the present.

I’ve been up to a lot off this grid and shared a bit on the blog today. Pop over if you’re curious 🧐 

🗯️ How the heck are you?! What have I missed during my hiatus?
DtMF 💔 This song and all of the TikToks that have DtMF 💔 This song and all of the TikToks that have been made to it have had me in tears for days. While it is very specific to Bad Bunny’s experience, at the heart of it all, it is such a powerful and beautiful reminder to simply take more pictures, give more hugs, and say the words you long to say. There’s no grief like regret nor time like the present.
The first Monday of a brand new year, ha? Seems li The first Monday of a brand new year, ha? Seems like that should mean something, doesn’t it? 😅

Well, for me it means breaking open my 2025 weekly planner, adding a few lines to my crisp new journal because the last one was full after three years, and deciding to carry over my 2024 family history pocket notebook into 2025 because research and documentation doesn’t care about dates on a calendar and the questions unfold themselves across space and time 🌀

How are you doing on this fine day as we head into a new week/month/year? Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint ❤️
Dutch’s 1902 Christmas Wishlist: 1) A tool chest 2 Dutch’s 1902 Christmas Wishlist:
1) A tool chest
2) A magic lantern
3) A doll for my little sister

Be still my heart ❤️ 

My great grandpa, Dutch, had his letter to Santa published in the Chronicle Tribune (Marion, Indiana) on December 23, 1902 when he was seven years old 🎄

This simple find by the marvelous research librarian @marionpublibin has definitely made my month, maybe even my year (next to JPBs Civil War Pension file) and confirms my understanding of Dutch’s tough exterior and tender heart ❤️

The question is:
💭 Was he hoping for the sort of Magic Lantern that carried a wish-granting Genie? Or the newfangled projector sort? 🧐 What do you think?
FLASHBACK FRIDAY: 2 A carousel of photos and/or v FLASHBACK FRIDAY: 2

A carousel of photos and/or videos that include snapshots of my life and my family history work throughout the previous week, that have brought me joy, nostalgia, or a sense of accomplishment, with short descriptions.

1) Almost full!
2) Breakfast at my favorite spot
3) Contemplations on human vs corn genetics
4) 1948
5) Part panther 
6 & 7) Never not questioning
8) In gratitude for a new woodstove 🔥
9) Get it!

💭 What’s filling your cup this week?
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