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Author: Melissa Willis

A to Z Challenge: Zacharie

Posted on April 30, 2025April 30, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Hello and Welcome to Z Day! The last day of the 2025 Challenge! WooHoo! When I was first thinking about signing up for this challenge, a few ancestors came straight to mind because of their unique names: Orvetta, Permelia, Una, Xainte, and of course, Zacharie for Z. It helped that he is probably the best…

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A to Z Challenge: Delia

Posted on April 4, 2025April 2, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Hello and Welcome to D Day! We’re four days in! How are you doing with the challenge? Are you finding it challenging to post daily? Are you participating in the Blog Hop? Popping around to see how others are doing and what they’re up to? I have to say, as much as I love the…

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A to Z Challenge: Cora

Posted on April 3, 2025April 2, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Hello and Welcome to C Day! Name: Cora Mae Gill Vital Information: Cora was born on 16 January 1874. She died on 12 July 1894 in childbirth with her first and only child, my great grandpa Philetus. Relation to Me: Paternal 2x great grandma. Tidbits/Characteristics/Commonalities: Cora and I were both young moms (she 20 and…

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A to Z Challenge: Benoni

Posted on April 2, 2025March 27, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Hello and Welcome to B Day! Name: Benoni Of course, right out of the gates on Day Two, I cannot find a single direct (proven) ancestor whose first name begins with B. Goodness. So, instead of first name, we’re heading all the back 250 years (!) to reach a B middle name. Vital Information: Francois…

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A to Z Challenge: Arthur

Posted on April 1, 2025March 27, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Hello and Welcome to Day One: A Day! Kin Name: Arthur Cloutier Vital Information: Born 5 April 1923 in New Hampshire, USA to Camille and Delia. Died 5 March 2010 in Connecticut, USA. Relation to Me: Paternal Grandfather Tidbits/Characteristics/Commonalities: While I did not have the opportunity to meet Arthur due to his death before my…

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My NPE Experience on the DNA Surprises Podcast

Posted on March 25, 2025March 25, 2025 by Melissa Willis

If you have experienced an NPE event, I imagine you know how earth-shaking it can be to have the very fabric of your being ripped apart and woven back together into a 3-D tapestry with brand new threads. Had you asked me in 2019 if I thought I might talk about the whole experience on…

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World Tuberculosis Day

Posted on March 24, 2025March 23, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Today marks the date in 1882 that Dr. Robert Koch announced his discovery of the bacteria that causes Tuberculosis, also known as TB or (for us family historians) Consumption. To commemorate World Tuberculosis Day, I’d thought I’d share a personal story about TB. A story about how it brought my maternal Grandma from her hometown…

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Rookie Reminder: Circle Back (Newspaper Articles and Photos)

Posted on March 20, 2025March 20, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Last Spring I reached out to the Marion (Indiana) Public Library about some research I was doing about two young siblings, Leah and Dale, who passed away tragically in separate incidences. I was trying to untangle the threads of oral history from fact and thought there might be a newspaper article or two about the…

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A Feeling

Posted on March 9, 2025March 15, 2025 by Melissa Willis

Have you ever felt like you were the only one who felt or thought a certain way? Like you were a black sheep because no one else you’ve known in your life has reacted to or perceived things in the same way as you do? Maybe you’ve felt foolish or misunderstood or maybe you just didn’t even know how to explain to anyone what you were thinking or experiencing?

Let me tell you, I felt this way for decades.

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HELLO & WELCOME!

I'm Melissa :-)

Ghost Chaser | Kin Seeker
NPE Survivor | Tea Drinker

As a hobbyist family historian and genetic genealogist, I find great joy in folding time with the Ancestors in an effort to best honor them while documenting their legacies for future generations. Grab a cuppa, let's sit for a spell and chat about ghosts!

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It’s been real, chasing ghosts with you all here i It’s been real, chasing ghosts with you all here in this little genealogical corner of the internet! Thank you for being you! 🌀

Join me, if you will, for a cuppa under the elderberry tree 💜
I finally got to work on my paternal grandma’s Her I finally got to work on my paternal grandma’s Heritage Journal spread! Whew…that created more of a speed bump than I anticipated but I’ve begun!  Woohoo! 🎉 

“Jean was a complicated woman who I never had the opportunity to meet and the more I learn about her, the more questions I have.

She is quite the enigma...

I’ve created layers and layers with colors and patterns and mini pages within the spread to be turned and lifted/looked into and beyond.

I know she loved music and gardens, so there’s that.”

More words + pictures + insights on the blog ❤️

💬 Have you been delaying on a project or task recently? How can you get out of your own way about it and just *start?
Faced with a brood of young children entering thei Faced with a brood of young children entering their teen years in the 1960s, my maternal grandma and grandpa decided to move the family out of New York City and to the country.

As writers and artists, the idea was simple enough…

“We had had the city. Obviously, our markets were there, but we couldn’t have cared less. The peculiar brand of writing and illustrating we do could be just as easily be airmailed to Kansas as carried by hand down to midtown Manhattan.”

More about their city-to-country life experience, on the blog: https://boldandqueer.com/what-it-was-really-like-to-move-to-the-country/
On the personal blog today, a “notebook meeting” w On the personal blog today, a “notebook meeting” with my six journals spanning from simple notes & a weekly planner to an everyday journal & a witchy Grimoire… From a dive into my family history & genetic lineage, to a brand new sketchbook. A peek into my pages & the pulse of my writer’s heart ❤️

There’s a new link in my b1o to my personal blog, Under the Elderberry Tree. Of course I’m still blogging on Bold+Queer, but some topics live beyond the family history/genetic genealogy niche, ya know? I’d love it if you’d head over, give it a read, and have a look at all the pictures 🌀

💬 Have you ever held a “notebook meeting” to assess what’s working and what’s not in your journal(s)?
Hi, hey, hello!!! I’m back! Well, sort of…in a lim Hi, hey, hello!!! I’m back! Well, sort of…in a limited way 🙃 I’m still doing my best to rage against the machine that is the USA and the horrors of the world at large, but I’ve also missed this amazing family history community so will be poking my head back in from time to time. 

I hope to show up for you, inspire you, and offer you some grace as we all document our ancestors and do our best to be good people in the present.

I’ve been up to a lot off this grid and shared a bit on the blog today. Pop over if you’re curious 🧐 

🗯️ How the heck are you?! What have I missed during my hiatus?
DtMF 💔 This song and all of the TikToks that have DtMF 💔 This song and all of the TikToks that have been made to it have had me in tears for days. While it is very specific to Bad Bunny’s experience, at the heart of it all, it is such a powerful and beautiful reminder to simply take more pictures, give more hugs, and say the words you long to say. There’s no grief like regret nor time like the present.
The first Monday of a brand new year, ha? Seems li The first Monday of a brand new year, ha? Seems like that should mean something, doesn’t it? 😅

Well, for me it means breaking open my 2025 weekly planner, adding a few lines to my crisp new journal because the last one was full after three years, and deciding to carry over my 2024 family history pocket notebook into 2025 because research and documentation doesn’t care about dates on a calendar and the questions unfold themselves across space and time 🌀

How are you doing on this fine day as we head into a new week/month/year? Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint ❤️
Dutch’s 1902 Christmas Wishlist: 1) A tool chest 2 Dutch’s 1902 Christmas Wishlist:
1) A tool chest
2) A magic lantern
3) A doll for my little sister

Be still my heart ❤️ 

My great grandpa, Dutch, had his letter to Santa published in the Chronicle Tribune (Marion, Indiana) on December 23, 1902 when he was seven years old 🎄

This simple find by the marvelous research librarian @marionpublibin has definitely made my month, maybe even my year (next to JPBs Civil War Pension file) and confirms my understanding of Dutch’s tough exterior and tender heart ❤️

The question is:
💭 Was he hoping for the sort of Magic Lantern that carried a wish-granting Genie? Or the newfangled projector sort? 🧐 What do you think?
FLASHBACK FRIDAY: 2 A carousel of photos and/or v FLASHBACK FRIDAY: 2

A carousel of photos and/or videos that include snapshots of my life and my family history work throughout the previous week, that have brought me joy, nostalgia, or a sense of accomplishment, with short descriptions.

1) Almost full!
2) Breakfast at my favorite spot
3) Contemplations on human vs corn genetics
4) 1948
5) Part panther 
6 & 7) Never not questioning
8) In gratitude for a new woodstove 🔥
9) Get it!

💭 What’s filling your cup this week?
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